Five optimistic practices
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You have every reason to be optimistic, because there is no shortage of luck
I checked... no panic buying, no supply chain issues, you can cultivate your own good fortune
Being optimistic is, according to psychologists, one small (and free) way in which we can create good fortune, but it's changing the way we approach situations that is the real game changer. Inspired by the generosity of some unexpected and great feedback, I've been reflecting on the role of positivity, and the psychology behind our view of situations and luck.
Can we really attract good luck? is being consistent or disruptive the best way to generate good fortune?
No.1 BE DELIGHTED.
You are more likely to see the opportunities infront of you if you are open to possibilities. This is a stand out quality in people who have good fortune. Richard Wiseman – a magician and psychologist encourages us to embrace a lucky mind-set, he found that people who acknowledge good luck or fortune, expect more. Expecting more good fortune is more likely to make us seek it out
TIP Acknowledge your good fortune
What good fortune have you had in the last week? I received some unexpected feedback from a client that brightened up my whole day. I acknowledged that good fortune and told people about it, and off the back of doing that I had a new enquiry. Acknowledge in any way you like but find time to be DELIGHTED by even the smallest amount of good fortune each week.
No.2 BE INTENTIONAL Fortune favours the observant. Focus and consistency is a powerful part of our productivity toolset, become too focused on one thing and you’ll be missing out on opportunities.
This exercise is fun to do with teams who have regular tasks or meetings with set agendas. Take the time to be CURIOUS, see what is going on and you will be exercising that opportunity seeking muscle.
Autopilot exercise By yourself, or with your team write down the top 3 things you do each week on autopilot. E.g.
Sending out the weekly sales figures
Preparing social media
Running a weekly meeting
The challenge here is to step out of autopilot and consciously observe what is happening, what else is going on? this is a form of enquiry that I use with clients who have established and successful ways of doing things.
In my video about marathon runners and mindsets I discuss the current research around negotiating and ask, ‘do you give yourself ultimatums?’ Ultimatum phrases ‘always and never’ are not going to get you better outcomes, your good fortune is that there are always options.
No. 4 BE ALTERNATIVE We are conditioned to be consistent; I have a five-year-old and his entire school week is about building up consistent and good habits, read 5 times a week, practice phonics, be kind… Perhaps you have an Instagram or LinkedIn account? You get rewarded for being consistent, the algorithms determine how content is ‘seen’ Being unpredictable, or ALTERNATIVE in our thinking has benefits for our good fortune, think of it this way…good fortune also rewards creativity, quirkiness, and individuality
TOOL NO. 4 Break your own rules Focus on yourself. When you do things for yourself, you need less from others in the way of attention and assurance, and this rule breaking is going to bring good fortune through waves of creative change. You can be consistent and creative, consistency is not about doing the same thing over and over again.
No.5 TAKE CHANCES As a final note, where we come from, our wealth and health is a huge part of what gives us our good fortune. Take your chances when you have them but also consider how you can share your good fortune with others.
TIP No.5 BE GENEROUS There is an art to failing, messing up and getting things wrong. You must be generous with yourself and others. How would you approach a task if you thought no one was looking? What if I told you that you could not fail? People who have good fortune are quick to recover from setbacks, they are generous to themselves and others.